Understanding behaviour in children with autism
Autistic children may have behaviours which appear unusual to some. There is nearly always a reason behind these behaviours. For example, it could be that your child is using it as a coping strategy, or it may be their way of trying to communicate.
Personalisation: every child is unique and different. What strategy works for one may not work for another child. You may need to have different approaches to certain situations.
Routines: planning a routine can be easier for you and your child. Using a visual aid may help with reducing anxiety they may have. For instance, at bedtime or getting ready to leave the house.
Communication: before trying to change this behaviour, ask yourself the question, what are they trying to tell you?
Replacement behaviour: try to provide a different way to communicate instead of removing the behaviour from the child. It may just stop the unwanted behaviour.
Self-stimulatory behaviour (‘stimming’): if the behaviour isn’t hurting your child, then do not change it. It is functional for the child. Sometimes ‘stimming’ can be playful, and parents may want to join in. Some stimming behaviours could include head banging which could be distressing for a parent. This is still a self-stimulating behaviour.
Meltdowns: a meltdown is a response to an overwhelming situation and for a time the child loses control of their behaviour. This can be expressed both physically or verbally or both ways. A meltdown is not the same as a temper tantrum and it is not naughty behaviour. It is a result of not being able to show or express how they feel.
How you can help manage a meltdown
- Give them time and space.
- Remain calm and try not to over-complicate talking to them.
- Minimise any triggers.
- Consider the environment, such as if there are bright lights or loud noises you can turn off.
- Try to identify the cause, as this may trigger another meltdown in future.
- Avoid saying the word ‘No’.
- An autism meltdown toolkit could help. It could include fidget toys, headphones, bubbles, weighted blanket, puzzles, or a favourite toy.
Remember you may not be able to stop a meltdown and it may last quite a long time. Try to stay calm, take a step back and be kind to yourself.
Date of publication: 31/08/2024
Reference code: PIL242/IND022
Review date: 01/09/2027